A friend of mine who was living by herself, rented out one of her rooms. She rented it out to a nice, clean and down-to-earth guy who took good care of his room and the house. My friend was very lucky to have a housemate like that, until he had to move out because he got married. For few years she never had any problems until she rented it out to another housemate who seemed normal at first, but turned out to be creepy after that.
Living with a housemate is not the same as living with a sibling. Sometimes, we can’t even stand living with our siblings, but at least you get to argue or reason with your sibling unlike a housemate because I am sure, you want your rent on time. It takes a lot of chemistry and connection to find the right housemate, but until then, you might want to get to know the different types of housemates out there. Each housemate have their own personalities, little secrets, possibly even weird habits and behaviors, therefore it is very important to know how to deal with them or the situation.
Otherwise also known as the anti-social, The Lurker doesn’t say much and sometimes keeps themselves in the room. It can be difficult to have conversations about house rules, let alone, get them to cooperate with you. The Lurker only comes out when no one is around, and creeps across the room without you noticing them. Sure it may seem harmless, but if it is weird enough to creep you out, you might want to try approaching the lurker in a “unique” method.
The Lurker is probably a timid, soft spoken person, who avoids eye contact and answers you in nods or brief yes-no’s. If you want to approach The Lurker, you have to do it slowly, give it time and try not to scare
it, I mean him or her, away. Start off by saying hello when you cross path in the hallway, or invite them to hang out once in awhile. Remember, The Lurker just need to warm up first before getting up close and personal.
The Noisemaker has no boundaries when it comes to noise. A friend once told me that her housemate don’t seem to realize the level of noise he was making, despite after confronting him about it. He would invite his friends over, hang out in his room watching movies until 5am in the morning. The Noisemaker can’t seem to grasp the concept that the walls are thin, and sometimes even slams the door behind him on his way out. Basically, The Noisemaker does everything loudly- it is all about bang, boom, clang with this housemate!
Well, the only way to solve this problem is to continuously confront The Noisemaker until he or she gets the idea. This can be done by knocking on their door each time they make noise, or if you are not the confrontational type of person, then tape a note on their door that says “Dude, please keep the noise down!”, but be prepared for some retaliation though! The best thing is still to confront and set some ground rules among your housemates that there should not be any noise after 12am.
The Busybody a.k.a Blabbermouth
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These nosy bunch are basically gossip folks and “kepochis” who just love to poke their noses in other people’s lives and talk about others. If you are living with two or three housemates, there will be one that can’t seem to mind their own business. I personally know someone who actually enjoy talking about another housemate’s business, from how much this person’s earns, to making assumptions when this person comes home after 12am. As harmless this may seem, however this reminds me of a story about gossip and feathers: A gossip is like a pillow full of feathers, it is easy to throw the feathers but it is not easy to collect and stuff it back into the pillow.
If you are a person who likes privacy, be careful with your busybody housemate, because she is probably doing same, talking about your business with the other housemate. If things get out of hand, try talking to the other housemates about how you feel and see if you can get them to cooperate with you about confronting this person. If this method doesn’t work, you might want to consider cutting out this person from your life or worst case scenario, move out.
The Dirty Monster
Have you ever had a housemate that leaves things around the house for days, like dirty dishes, pots and pans after cooking? Sometimes even an overnight half eaten food on the couch with ants or someone who just don’t do their part at all like cleaning the bathroom. It is not easy to deal with The Dirty Monster, and I personally think that having a dirty housemate is one of the worst to deal with. So if you do, then a salute to you for being able to put up with The Dirty Monster’s disgusting habits.
A lot of these situations require confrontation, and honestly, the best way to confront The Dirty Monster is to be UPFRONT and nothing else. If you are the main housemate in charge of rent and maintenance, try setting some ground rules. Otherwise, tell your landlord about it. If it doesn’t work out, tell your housemate to start packing.
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The Taker can be quite a nuisance especially when they use your things or eat your food without asking. To them, they might think they are just “borrowing” your things, and some might think that it is okay to do it since it is placed in the common area like bathroom, kitchen or living room. I know that sometimes, you might even find yourself in a spot where it makes you look selfish, but truth is, you have every right to feel uncomfortable.
For this situation, if confrontation doesn’t work at all, then it is time to pull the “Sheldon’s Roommate Agreement” on this person. Try making this person understand that you are NOT COOL with their bad habits at all. You might also want to set some boundaries for your belonging; instead of exposing your items to be “borrowed”, you can have your food placed in containers with your initials on it, whether it is in the fridge or cupboard. You can also have your toiletries placed in a mini basket to bring it with you ONLY when you want to use it. I understand that this might seem troublesome, because you don’t have the freedom to feel comfortable in your home, but as long as you choose to stick around, this is one of the best ways to deal with it until you decide to move to your own place.
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Among all the different types of housemates, you might want to feel blessed with The OCD. Sure, this person might be a little bit overboard with the cleanliness and order around the house, but hey, at least you don’t have to deal with dirty toilet bowls or missing chocolate bars. However, if are bothered about this housemate’s OCD obsession, there are ways to deal with it.
Play your cards right with The OCD housemate. Use them wisely, and you might just be able to get along and get to live in a clean and tidy environment. If you MUST make a little mess, make sure you do it ONLY in your room, but always keep a clean toilet especially if you are sharing it. Think of it as it will do you a favour as well, unless you like dirty toilets.