These will never make any sense until you have more than one child of your own. And when you do, you agree to this list whole-heartedly!
Here are some of the differences between having two or more kids versus one:
1. We always get asked how we manage everything
Most of my friends who has only one child will say they respect me for being able to work from home and look after my kids without a helper. They call me crazy and that I’m a super mum. But no, really… After a while, you will soon get used to the routine of managing more than one child. Looking back at how I used to feel so overwhelmed with only one child, I now think that it was just a piece of cake! You will magically manage when you HAVE TO!
2. We drive bigger cars
Having more kids means saying goodbye to smaller cars. It isn’t physically possible to squeeze three car seats or even a combination of booster seats and car seats across the back of a sedan. This is something for me to worry about while I’m waiting for my number three to pop out at the end of this year!
At the moment, we have a booster seat and a baby car seat at the back of our hatchback — it already looked so cramped! We definitely need to upgrade to minivans or SUV’s soon and give up our sporty hatchback 🙁
3. We are amazing with logistics
We are masters at organizing and scheduling because that’s what we do on a day to day basis. We know how much time we need to get ready to get out of the house to attend a dinner or party… Though sometimes unexpected things do happen, for example, the baby poops right before leaving home or the elder one suddenly demands to have a banana or a drink before we get into the car! So to prevent from being late, we will have to make time of half to an hour for unexpected dramas.
This means we need about 2-3 hours to get ready. Feel free to add more if you have more kids… Hence why we don’t appreciate change of timing for a meeting at the very last minute, no thank you.
4. We always have a playmate around
It used to be those times when we had to think about setting up playdates for our only child until we have the second child. With more kids, there is always a playmate and someone to socialise with. Life is also much easier when your kids are playmates with each other — you get more time to do other things in the house without your only child clinging on to you.
5. We always have a noisy house
The only time our house is ever quiet is when the kids are at school or sleeping. The noise begins as soon as one child wakes up. Having just one child is already loud… You’ll never have a safe decibel level after that.
6. We have toys everywhere
With one child, toys stay fairly contained. But with two, they just seem to show up everywhere. I find them on the kitchen counter, on the ironing board, and most of them under the couch. No matter how many times you clean up, the mess will be there again in less than 10 minutes! At the end of the day, our house always look like ‘tongkang pecah’ (wrecked ship)… Until I get the kids to clean up their mess before they go to bed 🙂
7. We get to be the “fun” house
When you have more than one child, your ability to tolerate noise and messes suddenly grows to an astonishing level. Combine that with the fact that there are more kids at your house to play with, you have more friends with children (those with one child looking desperately for playdates!) who wants to hang out with your family. It’s like a party all the time.
2 Kids + 2 Sets of toys + Parents who aren’t surprised by anything = A really fun place to hang out
8. We are outnumbered
When you have more than one child, you will be outnumbered. While one of us can handle the baby, the other parent can handle the toddler. Two is still manageable but three? That’s a whole new challenge and I’m all ready with something up my sleeves when the third one comes along! For example, during storytime, this chair with extra seats attached will come in handy *snickers*
Image by Alilio Kids
9. We get two times the help
We have more sets of hands to help with house chores, cooking, and projects. Having two or more kids does mean more work to be done, but there are economies of scale. Cooking dinner for two kids doesn’t take any longer than cooking for one kid. My 2.5 years old toddler found it fun to help me around the kitchen. He loves to help me bring the fish from the freezer to my kitchen counter top. My four years old preschooler sometimes help me with food preparation too. Both of them will help me to clean up their toys before bedtime. The bathroom has to be cleaned whether there’s one kid or two. Sure, it might get a little dirtier or not up to our expectations, but the job goes faster with more hands. The best thing about this is we do it together and we learned to help each other out.
10. We get two times the love ♥
We get two times the snuggles, two times the kisses, two times the “I love you’s”, two times the firsts (which are just as sweet with the first as with the second and so on…). There are two little people who look up to you and trust you to teach them. There are two more people in this world who loves you as much as you love them. There is simply more love to go around and this love is forever.